According to one gentleman, beneath these “ditsy vodka-and-cranberry drinking dame is an underlying vulnerability” which we can only suppose is a turn on for him. And if we expect to bag ourselves a man we had better start pretending we can’t open our own ketchup bottles and need every film we watch together explaining to us?
And as if that wasn’t offensive enough, another young man added: “If the women we date are dumb, then we have the upper hand in the relationship”. One gent who was interviewed (John Carney) did find it important to remind us that “dumb chicks” (his words not mine) try harder to find a smart mate, in order to economically advance themselves.
Any hint of bad news about the successful or talented has always made headlines, but media pessimism about the happiness and life balance of millions of young, career-oriented women has struck a chord nationwide.
The purported “news” was never good: Smart women are less likely to marry.
In high school, I had no problem meeting guys, getting a boyfriend, etc.
My senior year I got into Stanford for early decision (majoring in biology). Guy friends would tell me things like, "Oh, you're too smart for us now", etc. It's not like I changed because of my college: I don't talk about philosophies and great works of literature; I actually get bored by that stuff.
If anything, she was probably a "whore" you'd get along with and you could bond over the sexist idiot you both dated. Not paying attention to the way he talks about other women. You're working, you're busy, you don't have 24 hours a day to put into some relationship that might not go anywhere. You're better off just joining online groups built around a shared love of like I definitely didn't. Keeping a guy around way too long because it was so hard to find a decent guy and you don't want to have to go through The Search again.
If the fact that he only eats stale dinner rolls for lunch bugs the hell out of you in the beginning, you're going to throw one at his face six months from now.
CHAPTER 2 | Overqualified for Love Imagine, as newspapers and magazines recently have, the “plight of the high-status woman.” She is a well-educated young woman in her 30s, earns a good salary, and has a great social life — but she is single and is worried that her success might be the reason she has not met a man to marry.Successful men are romantically interested only in their secretaries.And if a woman makes a lot of money, men will be intimidated. I mean, ideally, they're all like "OMG how is he so great? He's not going to magically become obsessed with reading all the books you love at age 28. Their opinion isn't the important thing, but it's a red flag if they all hate him. Settling for a guy who isn't up to your standards and then trying to change him.Put another way, many high-achieving women think their success is not helping them find love.