(Just count the times this author uses the word “hero.”) Thus, the master/protégé dynamic cements power differentials that are simply too pronounced to create a healthy relationship, Not to mention the fact that grad-student/faculty relationships literally ruin careers: When a student and faculty member start sleeping together, rarely is it a well-kept secret; often, the student becomes a departmental pariah.Without support from fellow students (and, often, dismissed by the other professors in the department), many of these once-promising grad students wind up out of the discipline entirely.It’s not just a matter of two consenting adults’ hearts wanting what they want.Because not only are these relationships almost always an unacceptable abuse of power, they also affect the dynamics of departments, entire fields, and the very act of academic mentorship altogether. And your general mood on this day seems to directly correlate to which of these groups you are a member of. The one day of the year where people are clearly divided into two categories: taken or single.
Many of my peers (both in grad school and in the workplace) complain about “how difficult it is to meet someone” and the fact that “I have never been single for this long! A booming industry, with millions of young professionals and graduate students our age deciding that meeting at bars or pubs isn’t really for them, and choosing to instead, sit comfortably behind a computer screen and type up a nice profile.
It’s not really my style to gush over a romantic partner, but this is possibly the happiest and most comfortable I’ve ever been with someone.
However, we have one big difference: I’m a graduate student getting my Ph D in a science field, and he never completed his bachelor’s and is currently working in the service industry.
The best way to think of rotations is like a date for a potentially (very) long-term relationship. This is a little like deciding to marry someone before the first date.
Your school will provide you with ample information on taking classes, but picking rotations is a different matter. At the other end of the spectrum, there are people who go into labs without studying the lab and the way it is run, like they are going on a blind date; neither strategy is ideal.
He’s taking online classes and collaborating on a startup, but doesn’t plan to finish his degree.