“There isn't a huge difference among European countries, although the cliché is that northern countries are more pragmatic and the southern countries more romantic,” Hegmann said.
That's not to say that there aren't a few intercultural differences.
At first, he took offense to this, saying a German girl would be thrilled to get a promise ring.
I pointed out the fact that I’m Canadian, not German and that promise rings weren’t very popular with the 30 something crowd in Canada. Initially he wasn’t so sure that I “needed” an engagement ring since we would be living in Germany, but when he saw that all my Canadian friends did indeed have engagement rings along with their wedding bands, he realized that this was indeed a common thing in Canada. was true to his word though, when I arrived in Germany, I was busy checking everyone’s fingers for engagement rings, and he was right, they are not popular here at all.
And as I pointed out that even though we would be living in Germany, I would still be very much a Canadian. I’m not materialistic but this one thing I really wanted. seemed to understand this logic and I am now happily wearing a sparkly engagement ring. He said that most Germans wouldn’t assume my ring was an engagement ring, since they’re not common.
A 2008 survey of European singles for dating website Parship found that Germans tended to be the most experienced with serious relationships, uninterested in marriage and pessimistic about finding a new partner soon. If what you're doing isn't working, change it!
“If you're looking for love for three or four years, or you never had a relationship lasting longer than six months, then probably you're doing something – maybe not wrong, but maybe not right for you,” Hegmann says.
The Trauzeuge/Trauzeugin (wedding witness) has an important role throughout the process, but unlike in other countries can actually be any gender for both the bride and the groom.